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The mistake of parents to suppress or hide emotions in children


Parents tend to avoid any suffering or pain for their children, precisely because of the love they have for them. Therefore, when talking about the emotion of jealousy at the birth of a baby brother or any other change, the tendency is to be alert and avoid the problem. However, allowing them to experience it and guiding them not to delay learning is very important. And is that hiding, hiding or repressing children's emotions is one of the great mistakes of parents.

Jealousy is an emotion that will undoubtedly appear to a greater or lesser extent at one time or another in a child's life. The challenge for parents is how to face it without affecting the child's confidence and self-esteem. In this post I would like to share a few simple steps that can help you get through this stage successfully.

For children, jealousy is an unknown emotion like all those that are presented during their growth. However, this one is very special because behind is the concept of unconditional love and the way it is given and received. It is common for the child to experience an emotional imbalance when sharing the love received by a loved one, mainly because he does not perceive it as a sharing, but rather as a way of losing love.

Everyone at some point in our life has felt jealous. It is an emotion that appears so that the human being establishes security and worth in himself. It helps to find self-knowledge tools to understand that the affection of loved ones can be shared and that not for that reason it will be received less. It is at this stage it is essential for parents to assertively involve themselves and convey to the minor the true learning behind the dreaded jealousy.

Children experience this emotion at different stages of their life and for various reasons. Some may experience it at the birth of a new family member, a new friend, and even jealousy of the pet or one of the parents.

The jealousy in childhood It is one of the stages that can be experienced with greater tension in some families. The emotional disorder experienced by children who suffer from it will be reflected in bad behaviors, irritability, drastic changes in behavior and a variety of symptoms that, if not solved, will influence their current and future relationships.

From there the importance of parents knowing how to detect when these emotions arise, let us accompany our son in his process, let us validate those feelings and empathize with our little ones. They will thank us in the future!

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You can help your little one overcome jealousy or any type of 'negative' emotion by guiding him to connect emotions with words and thus be able to release them.

1. Observe when jealousy (or other emotion) kicks in and why
Knowing and locating when jealousy is triggered will help you to be more assertive and thus find the right moment and words to guide you to release the emotion.

2. Talk to your little one about your emotions and how you feel
Letting the child see that you are capable of talking about your emotions will open the door for him to talk about his. Take advantage and explain what unconditional love means and that you will love him regardless of what he does, says or the people who join in the family or in the environment. Tell him how you feel, let him know the things you like about him and how valuable he is. Also what the change in behavior means before the emotion you are dealing with.

3. Helps to name and accept emotion
The first step in releasing emotion is acceptance. He talks openly about what he is naturally feeling and how his behavior affects the environment. It is very important that you do not feel guilty. Try to get the child to recognize this word in him and express it verbally.

4. Teach him to release emotion
Once he has accepted this emotion as part of his learning process, ask him to verbally express that he is releasing that emotion. Do it like a game: Tell him to put a color on it, imagine that he keeps it in a box that he will later keep in a loft that he cannot access and then ask him to express it verbally. (Stimulate your creative part: you can change color or form to release the emotion).

Dare to get creative while helping your little ones to face the world of emotions with assertiveness and love! And don't forget, as the study 'How to Teach Children About Their Emotions', conducted by the Center on the Social and Emotional Foundations of Early Learning says, that' young children feel many of the same things as adults But the difference is that very young children in many cases have not developed the self-control and language skills that allow them to express their strong feelings in ways acceptable to adults. '

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