Being parents is a complicated task and nobody educates us to be one. Having a child means for adults to live with doubts, uncertainties, inaccuracies, etc. Apart from having to deal with the intrusion and the opinion of the environment. Educating our children is a challenge that we want to do our best. In Guiainfantil.com we are on your side to help you. On this occasion, we help you understand how to give orders to children (and have them listen to you once and for all). Although it seems like an impossible mission, follow these tips so that it is not so impossible.
Those who are parents today will be guided above all by the educational models that they have lived in their homes. In general, the most deeply-rooted education techniques in Spain have been those that are based on punitive disciplines that are based on reproaches, insults, threats, impositions, punishments, moral sermons or comparisons. On the other hand, and in counterpoint to this type of discipline, there is another type of parents who approach the other educational extreme being excessively permissive.
The daily fatigue and routines suffered by parents mean that adults cannot even stop to think about the positive or negative effects of educational models what they use and if there are other ways of educating their children. That is why I want to talk to you about positive discipline.
Positive discipline emerges as an effective alternative to authoritarianism and permissiveness. It is based on collaboration, respect, affection, the child's autonomy, freedom of action and a positive development of the child within a healthy and happy environment.
The objective of this model is that children understand the rules which in turn will provide them with the necessary security for their evolutionary development.
This type of discipline should not be understood as an imposition of the rules, but as a means by which the child finds the 'way' to be responsible for his actions and knows that every action has its consequence. This will help you learn how to behave and act in every situation.
Learn to make requests or give instructions to your children it's one of the first things parents have to do. Always within a climate of trust and respect.
One of the most frequent difficulties is getting children to obey their parents' orders without having to repeat them ad nauseam or having to do it screaming. In fact, doing it is counterproductive because the children ignore it and the parents get tired of repeating the orders to them without any result or even the opposite result.
Parents should be educational guides and models for their children. To achieve this, it is important that adults agree to change some of their strategies or habits when educating children to get the little ones to behave as they really want them to.
To achieve this, it is important to follow some tips:
1 Choose the right moment
When an important task is to be given to the child it is important to evaluate the state in which it is. It will not be the same if he is calm than excited, or that he is receptive or defensive. Therefore, it will be necessary to allow a few moments so that the child is comfortable in the communicative situation.
2. Take care of how we talk to you
Use an appropriate tone of voice and body language so that the child understands the message. Calling him by his name, stooping to get at his height, looking into his eyes, using a soft but firm tone ... All with confidence in our own authority.
3. Be clear and precise when setting limits
In order for the little one to know exactly what to do, we must use short sentences without lecturing or yelling.
4. Few orders
Children should be given orders one at a time and without contradicting each other. If it is necessary to give more than one slogan, they must be spaced in time.
5. Always positive
Instructions must always be positive. For example, instead of saying: 'don't run around here', you should say 'around here you have to go slower'.
If there is no agreement in the couple for the order given to the child, always support each other. If it is necessary to discuss something, it will be done later when the little one is away.
7. Be consistent
In order not to confuse the child and not to lose the gained authority, one must be firm in the orders given to the child. That is, if one day we tell the child to do one thing, the next day we cannot order him otherwise.
8. Let there be recognition
It is good to recognize compliance with the rule fairly. It does not consist of giving him anything material, but we can give him positive messages such as 'I am very happy for what you have done'.
More positive discipline resources
4 tips to set limits for children from positive discipline. Practical advice to set limits for children using positive discipline, that is, from love, kindness, respect and firmness. Your children need rules to be happy, but without punishment or blackmail. Keys to a conscious parenting with positive discipline.
Common discipline mistakes that are very toxic to children. Avoid falling into these common discipline mistakes. They are very toxic to children, since they cause low child self-esteem or the development of childhood fears. Avoid authoritarianism but also the absence of limits. Positive discipline is educating with love and firmness.
11 teachings of positive discipline on the education of children. These are the lessons and lessons we can learn from applying positive discipline in the education of children. You will find practical advice to educate your children with love and respect without losing your resolve and knowing what to do in the face of children's tantrums.
16 keys to apply positive discipline in children according to their age. We recommend applying positive discipline to children according to their age, since it is not the same to educate a baby positively than to educate your older children. This discipline can help you set limits and rules for children to reinforce the bond between parents and children on a day-to-day basis.
7 ideas to educate children with positive discipline. Positive discipline, positive parenting. What really is positive discipline that is different from permissiveness. How to set limits and make my child obey me with positive discipline.
You can read more articles similar to How to give orders to children and have them listen to you once and for all, in the Limits category - On-site discipline.