Measuring self-esteem can seem so complicated how to measure love, happiness or patience ... And yet there is a way to find out if our child (or why not, yourself), has some kind of self-esteem problem. You just have to use the well-known Rosenberg scale.
We explain how to use the Rosenberg test to detect low self-esteem in children. Apply the scale with your child and find out if he has enough faith in himself to achieve everything he sets out to do.
Although it may surprise you, you can measure self-esteem, even if it is approximately. How? Using the Morris Rosenberg psychologist scale, a simple test very useful for parents with suspicions about their child's low self-esteem.
Those who have used this scale say that it is very useful especially for the pre-adolescence and adolescence stage of the children, a stage in which self-esteem is suddenly more vulnerable and fragile.
The scale, although it was originally designed for adolescents, the truth is that it is useful and applicable also to slightly younger children and also for adults. Widely used by psychologists around the world, it serves to check what concept the child or adolescent has about himself, if they are happy and how much is valued.
To use it, you just have to ask your child to answer this simple test. It consists of 10 statements. The first five are positive and the next five are negative. Your child must answer on a scale of 1 to 3. In the case of positive affirmations, one means I disagree, 2 means I agree a little, and three means I totally agree. In the case of the following five statements, 1 means I agree, while 3 means that you disagree at all.
Let's start with the test:
- I feel that I am a person worthy of appreciation. At least I am like the others (Point to the side 1,2 or 3. Remember. 1 if you do not agree at all and 3 if you totally agree).
- I believe that I have positive qualities.
- Adopted a positive aptitude for myself.
- Overall, I am satisfied with myself.
- I am capable to do things as well as the rest of the others.
- I am inclined to think as a general rule that I am a failure (In the negative statements, remember that 1 means that you totally agree, while 3 means that you do not agree at all).
- I think that I don't have much to be proud of.
- I would like be able to respect me more.
- Sometimes, I feel useless.
- Sometimes I think that I am useless.
Now add up all the points. Check the score obtained here:
- Score below 15 points: It is a question of a very low self-esteem, of a child or adolescent who believes little in his possibilities and who needs encouragement to trust himself more.
- Score from 16 to 25 points: Your child has a healthy self-esteem. It is true that it can be improved, but he believes in himself and in his possibilities. He knows that he can improve but that he is not below anyone.
- Above 25 points. Here we are talking about a very strong self-esteem, but if the score is already above 27, it may start to be a problem, since an excess of self-esteem can also be dangerous for a child, since it can denote problems to analyze reality or the case of children who are overconfident and complacent with themselves. According to Rosenberg's theory, the ideal score would range from 15 to 25 points.
The theory of psychologist Rosenberg reveals reflections that do not escape common sense, but that it is good to remember. For example:
- Children and adolescents who are more extroverted tend to have higher self-esteem.
- Children and adolescents with problems managing their emotions have lower self-esteem.
Remember that self-esteem is a basic pillar of happiness and our personal safety, as well as a necessary engine to successfully achieve our dreams.
If you think your child has too low self-esteem, you can always help him increase it. How?
- Don't forget positive reinforcement. Instead of pointing out what he does or doesn't do wrong, try to highlight the things that he is good at.
- Praise yes, thank you. Acknowledge their accomplishments with applause, hugs, and positive words.
- The green pen technique. When you help him with his homework, forget the red pen to mark what is wrong and try to circle the number of hits he has had with a green pen.
- Encourage him to overcome challenges. When your child fails to overcome a challenge, it is normal for him to 'break down'. Invite him to try again, and empower him with perseverance.
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