We all know that self-esteem is one of the basic pillars to achieve success in everything we ask ourselves. That is why it is so important to generate good self-esteem in children from a young age. How about we try to achieve it using the game, the best educational tool?
Many parents wonder how to boost their child's self-esteem: with constant positive phrases? Letting them ever win when we play with them? No. There is nothing better to improve a child's self-esteem, apart from trust and bond, than games. Pay attention, because we give you a list with the 5 games to improve children's self-esteem they won't let you down.
Considering the importance of stimulate the self-concept of our childrenHere are some games that will help you to achieve it.
1. The hot seat
A child sits in a chair. The rest of the classmates, or if it is at home, the rest of the family members, walk towards him. When the teacher or person who is in charge of directing the game says 'stop', everyone who walks towards the child, stops and says something about him that they like. This game to improve self-esteem, which may seem a bit embarrassing for the most shy children, in the end gets the child to receive a lot of positive stimuli.
2. The treasure box
The teacher or if it is at home, the person who leads the game, tells the children that they will hide a treasure in a box. Without their seeing it, he hides a mirror in a box. Then call each child to see what is in the box. Before he opens it, he makes her promise not to tell what is hidden to the rest. When he opens the box, you emphasize that what he is seeing is the most valuable treasure he will ever find. The child will realize that in reality the treasure is in oneself. What a great metaphor to increase the self-esteem of the little ones!
3. The statues
This game is accompanied by music. A song sounds and the children dance. When the music stops, everyone should stand still like statues, but with the gesture of some basic emotion or making some comic gesture. Children will lose their fear of expressing their emotions in public, in front of others. This is a great step for them to begin to understand and manage basic emotions such as happiness or joy, sadness, fear ...
4. The mime
This is the most popular game and it is very fun for children. It consists of asking the children to interpret an activity, movie or song through gestures. The rest of the children must find out what it is about.
5. The fortune teller
For this game, the children must sit in a circle (if you do it at home, all members of the family can sit). Each one should write on a paper three characteristics of the person in front of them. When everyone has finished, they put the folded papers in a bag and then, by chance, they are read aloud. Between all of you, you must guess who is being talked about. It seems like a very simple game, but the truth is that it is very useful to empower children and value themselves as unique and special people.
In recent years, awareness has increased about the importance of having good self-esteem, both in the case of children and adults. And it is that having a good concept of ourselves is much more than being happy or sad; a good self-esteem predisposes us to change the way we face and understand life, to motivate ourselves to achieve what we set out to do.
Low self-esteem is more dangerous than you might think. Not only for your child, but also for others. Often times, the most aggressive children in school are also the least self-confident. Aggression is also a reflection of low self-esteem.
Low self-esteem will prevent your child from achieving his goals. It is an obstacle in their learning, because it also 'turns off' the brightness of all those abilities that they have and that they are not capable of 'exploiting'.
And, as the report 'Self-esteem in boys and girls' (by Ángela Ríos Toledano for the magazine Innovation and educational experiences of the Central Sindical Independiente de Servants), children build their self-esteem from the experiences they have throughout childhood, both through the good things they experience and those that are not so positive. However, in the construction of this personal assessment, the type of relationships established with family and environment also intervene.
Hence, parents must make sure that they grow up in a loving and motivating environment, in which respect and love are the foundations of parenting.
So, how can we parents identify that we should work more with our children, the confidence and security they have in themselves? There are different tests and indicators of self-esteem that could help us to know if the little ones are not loved or accepted. But, in general, these are some of the signs that should catch our attention to start proposing games and other educational resources that empower our children.
- Children are too shy or suddenly change their behavior and begin to be withdrawn.
- They get discouraged quickly and leave tasks without completing.
- They collaborate little and find it hard to get excited about new challenges.
- They tend to be quite irritable and have trouble managing frustration.
- They are very afraid of making mistakes, which sometimes leads them not to take the step to undertake new projects or adventures.
- They use defeatist phrases in their day to day.
- They are often compared with others (and almost always lose out in this comparison).
- Sometimes they lie or cheat.
- They feel anxiety.
In the event that parents identify several of these signs during a sustained period of time, they may be a symptom that our children's self-esteem is not as 'bright' as it should. We are in time to start up some of the resources and games that we have proposed or chat, calmly and respectfully, with our children to ask them how they feel and what they need from us.
In the event that we perceive that our efforts are not obtaining the expected results, we must take the children to see a psychologist to help us build a healthy self-esteem for our children.
Here are some great stories that you can read with your children in order to make them reflect on what self-esteem and personal acceptance are. Enjoy them!
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