Have you ever wondered what kind of education you give your child? I often wonder if the rules and expectations that I employ for my daughter are ideal.
Although there are many ideas in families, friends, books, schools for parents, the Internet, etc., on how to educate children, no one has the ideal answer. I keep thinking that the best thing is to listen not only what the child says but also what each one demands. I explain how to promote democracy at home and in children.
My daughter does well that I am a democratic mother. And what do I mean by this? That i am looking forhelp her fend for herself to think about the consequences of their behavior. I want her to know clearly what I expect from her and at the same time I explain why I do it, according to her age. But I do all that in one affectionate, warm way and with a lot of closeness and affection. That is at least what I think I do.
In the article 'The educational styles of fathers and mothers' of a School of Families, Granada, Spain, I found some ideas that can help parents to educate their children through a democratic style, that is, with affection and communication, supervision and limits, in addition to promoting autonomy.
1. Affection and communication:
A democratic mother or father listens and give importance to what your child says. He does not criticize, judge, much less blame him. Teach children to express themselves, to control their impulses by example, show affection, and get to know their little friends.
2. Clear and consistent monitoring, setting standards and limits:
The rules as well as their motives and their consequences are short, clear and easy to remember and to fulfill for the children. They are reasonable and age appropriate for the little ones. The older the children, the more negotiation there is of the rules. Parents are consistent and calm when children throw tantrums. The father and mother agree on the rules and the application of consequences.
3. Promotion of autonomy:
Democratic parents encourage responsibility for children. They allow to comment on errors and that they assume the consequences, showing their support and letting them solve their little difficulties and failures such as going up and down zippers, getting dressed, buttoning, etc. They are parents who celebrate their children's successes and support them through failures.
Very important: They do not demand more than what children can give and allow them to make some decisions and have an opinion.
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