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How to teach children to handle frustration


It is not easy to be a child and less so when adults spend the day making decisions that the little ones may not like, or at school when playing with their classmates and the rules may not be the fairest for everyone. There are many situations that can trigger feelings of frustration in the little one that unbalance their inner peace and make them feel emotional discomfort, often difficult to control. How to teach children to handle frustration?

For the child to learn to manage his negative feelings of frustration it will depend on how the adults in your environment receive them, since it is from them that you will learn to handle them and, therefore, to grow if they are received with understanding and affection. A child who is forbidden to do everything, who is reprimanded, who is not allowed to do it because they do not trust their abilities will have feelings of frustration and defeat that will hardly strengthen their self-esteem.

The frustrations are necessary in the development of the child, but always in small doses, so you have to find a balance between the child having too many or none (due to overprotection). But it must be borne in mind that if the child experiences frustrations all the time, it can trigger anxiety and fear with inappropriate responses and behaviors.

If your child is frustrated, it will be appropriate that as parents you do not get nervous and accompany him in that process of internal discomfort, supporting him and explaining things so that he understands them and sees other perspectives (always taking into account his age). But How are children taught to handle frustration?

There are many times that our children are frustrated by parents for things that simply could have been avoided, but I do not mean to be overprotective, but to avoid unnecessary discomfort. Sometimes understanding and caring are the best strategy.

Although there will also be frustrations that cannot be avoided so as parents you must contain and teach him so that he learns that he has security, something that will help him to tolerate and trust himself.

In order to achieve the aforementioned you can use relaxation techniques and let the child know why they have this feeling of frustration and once you can identify it you can channel it better and ask for help only if necessary.

One question that should be asked is: 'What can you do not to get angry and continue what you are doing?' If necessary, you can do a role-play so that he learns to solve the problem that afflicts him by himself and praise him whenever he uses strategies in the face of his frustration.

You cannot overcome a failure by avoiding or ignoring it. Failures must be faced, managed and channeled in some way so that they are used as a learning opportunity. So it is important that you teach your child these simple lessons:

1. If you trip or fallMake a big effort to get up alone. If you can't, ask for help.

2. If you haven't succeeded first, try again.

3. If you make a mistake in a task, breaking a plate for example while trying to wash it, continue with the same task. Don't be discouraged by glitches. We are all wrong.

4. If you fulfill some dreams and fail others, make both experiences sources of learning. Reinvent and keep dreaming. Keep going!

One tool that you can do to work from home with children on the subject of frustration is to tell a story. And it is that it will be a way for him to see that he is not the only one who experiences that feeling and, very importantly, to extract a moral from each story.

- The story that did not want to be written
Many times things do not go as we had imagined or as we would like them to be and that is when we give up and get angry. But no, let us make an effort and grow so that stories are written, for example, and to fulfill our dreams.

- Leo and the bicycle
Teaching your child to ride a bicycle is one of the best experiences you can live as a parent, but yes, get ready because until it is released there will be bad moments: falls, anger, frustrations ... To the protagonist of 'Leo and the bicycle 'something similar happens to him.

- Lyre and the wind
If you see that your child is angry all the time, something is wrong! Behind that frown and frustration other emotions such as fear can hide. Lira, the protagonist of this story written by BegoƱa Ibarrola, keeps a secret behind this attitude: she had no friends and that made her sad.

- The anger of the vowels
All of us, at times, have gotten angry and fought with a friend. What would happen if we did not resolve this situation? In this dilemma are the protagonists of this story, the vowels. Do you want to know how the story ends? Find out and, by the way, learn some letters of the alphabet.

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Video: Carol Dweck: How to encourage an easily frustrated child (September 2020).