Tantrums are something that all parents must face during the different stages of development of our children, even if we are lucky to have the calmest child in the world. If your child is 12 months or older and you're concerned about not knowing how to handle their angry moments, here are some tips to help you Dealing With One Year Old Tantrums.
Even before the year, the cries of a baby are a way of communicating his needs, if he is hungry, cold, hot, uncomfortable, cannot sleep or something hurts. However, after 12 months it begins to gradually give yourself a process of seeking autonomy and our baby, who is no longer a baby, begins to try to assert his wishes and his tastes beyond just his needs. That's when we welcome tantrums and tantrums.
To better understand the important stage in which a child is around the year of life, it is necessary to know the characteristics of this moment of development. In the first twelve months of life, a baby becomes a child that counts already with many new skills to start to know the world. Children of this age are capable, among other things, of:
- Walking, which will give him a very important level of independence, so that he will begin to explore as much as possible.
- Explore objects in different ways (shakes, hits or throws them).
- You can start feeding alone, with your hands or with a spoon.
- You can drink from a cup holding it with both hands.
- When something is named, look in the direction of the illustration or thing that was named.
- Pull or pull a person to show them something.
- Ask for more'.
- When you are told NOT to stop what you are doing (at least momentarily).
- Combine the use of words or gestures to show their wishes.
- Follow simple instructions like 'pick up the toy'.
- Imitate actions in everyday life such as combing or brushing teeth.
- Understand when asked to do something simple.
- Cry when mom or dad leave.
- He has favorite things and people.
Some parents may think that tantrums at this age are attempts to challenge them, but as we have seen, this stage is unique since it determines those first advances towards independence and tantrums are precisely a manifestation of your first wishes to fulfill your own tastes. They even become healthy as they begin to develop their tolerance for frustration and we are given the opportunity to establish the limits of what is allowed.
So what are some of the most common causes of tantrums in 1-year-olds?
- They want to do something that is not allowed.
- They want to do something they can't.
- They are unable to express their needs or desires (language development often helps reduce tantrums).
- They do not feel well (they may be very tired or something hurts).
- They are unable to get the attention they want.
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Now that we know a little better why our one-year-old can have tantrums, let's learn a little more about what parents can do to accompany them in a moment of tantrum.
1. Anticipate 'delicate' moments
Children are more prone to tantrums when they are tired or overstimulated. Knowing the situations that make our child vulnerable to a tantrum allows us to anticipate and have a chance to avoid it. So we can avoid taking it to the shopping if it has not had a nap or has not eaten etc.
2. Make children forget what makes them angry
At this age more than at any other, distractions are a great way to get our child out of an angry situation: Try making funny faces, suggest a game, show him a toy, or pretend to be looking for something.
3. Help him and accompany him
If he's in the middle of a tantrum and you ask him to stop doing something dangerous like reaching into a door, don't expect him to meekly obey; instead come over and remove it yourself.
4. Calmly but firmly point out bad behaviors
In the face of aggressive behavior such as biting, hitting or throwing things, be firm and let him know that it is not acceptable.
5. Let him cry
Sometimes as long as he doesn't cry, we can give in to his wishes or lose patience and yell at him. Crying is her way of expressing her frustration, and if you don't overreact to that, she'll probably be distracted by something else in a few minutes. Avoid humiliating phrases such as 'crying is girlish stuff' at all times.
6. DO NOT give complex explanations
Needless to say, at this age they can't understand the reasons behind an order, so keep the explanation in the simplest terms.
7. DO NOT try to physically restrain him
Holding or hugging him while he's in a tantrum will make it harder for him to calm down.
8. Keep calm
If the tantrum seems to never end and you are losing patience, take turns with another adult to handle it while you take a break.
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