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The role sadness plays in a child's emotional development


Joy, surprise, love, but also anger, anger or sadness are part of your child's DNA. All of these emotions play an important role in your little one's present and future, including what many parents may think of as negative emotions. Do you want to know how sadness influences the emotional development of the child?

Sadness is an emotion that is felt when we do not achieve something that we have proposed, when we feel mistreated by others or when an event comes that is not favorable for us or for our loved ones.

It costs and a lot! but parents really have to accept and allow children to express sadness. And, although many may not believe it, that a child is always happy is not good, because it will mean that he is repressing something.

Sadness is a natural emotion. The parents there have to console and accompany the child in his sadness; they have to see what is causing you sadness. It is very good to help them detect the causes of emotions, because every feeling is produced by something. It does not come without more! It can appear due to an external event or, when they are a little older, due to something they are going through.

An example. A friend from your child's class celebrates his birthday and doesn't invite your little one. He will be angry and will say phrases that express sadness: 'I thought they were going to invite me. I thought he was my friend, but he's not. ' When our children express what they feel and we help them find the cause, they are already in a better circumstance to handle that emotion well, to be able to manage it.

Sadness is one of the most surprising emotions, because through it a lot of positive things can be found for the child's emotional development:

1 - It is the emotion that most favors creativity, because it is an introverted emotion, totally opposite to joy.

2 - The emotion of sadness draws us in and helps us to reflect. It helps us to realize the values ​​and positive things we have in life.

3 - It also promotes comforting behavior in people who love me. It is a very selective emotion. I only share it with those people who I have a lot of trust, but only those who love me will console me.

4 - Helps us mature. With sad situations, problems and difficult situations we grow as people.

For all this, we cannot prevent children from living certain sad moments in their own skin. What we can do is comfort them, support them and help them get out of there, but never run away. In this way, the child will learn to channel it and manage it better in future moments in which that feeling and / or emotion reappears in his life.

If we start this work when they are very young, as they grow up everything will be easier, since they will open up to us more easily and will tell us how they feel. We must maintain an empathic attitude with phrases like 'I'm there for what you need!' and avoid the "Come on, nothing's wrong!"

Many works of art and music, some of the most famous paintings in history or innumerable poetry and literary works have arisen from moments of sadness and despair and even heartbreak. It is something more natural than we think! The important thing when a situation of sadness occurs in a child is to know how to channel it so that the little one does not remain too long in that sadness. Help him to get out of it, to ingest it, but never suppress the sadness, which is what some adults, with the best intention, try.

And there is nothing that can hurt a father or a mother more than seeing their child sad. This situation of apathy and discouragement of the child means that many adults do not know how to react and do not know what to do to change that moment. Here are some tips:

- We should never repress that child's emotion
If you don't want to scare him away from you and make him close in on himself, avoid saying phrases like 'Nothing's wrong', because really something is wrong with the child.

- Accompany him and ask him if you can do something for him
Many times the simplest things have the most effect. Sit next to him and stay there with him, saying nothing or doing anything. He will soon notice your affection and warmth.

- Help you express what you feel
If you find him receptive, you can ask him 'Can I do something for you?' To the heart of the child you have to knock on the door and wait for them to open. We cannot adopt an invasive and aggressive attitude at the same time.

- Assume that the child cannot always be happy
Extremes are not good and, just as we have to help our son to get out of that sadness, if we notice that he is always 'happy' we should observe him a little better. That way he behaves is telling us something, he is hiding a problem.

- Comfort him and seek with him the cause
Show him that you are there to help him and find the reason that has put him in that state. Questions like 'Do you want to tell me something?' It will allow you to break the ice and start digging deep into his heart.

- Teach him to channel that emotion
The child will be disoriented because he does not really know what is happening to him, especially if it is the first time that it happens. In this case, the adult should be your guide.

- Stop, reflect and learn from that feeling
Learning can be drawn from every experience. So, after leaving this emotion behind, it is time to think what good things we have learned from this experience.

The stories can become an excellent tool for parents to explain to their children what sadness is and for the little ones to empathize with the characters in the stories and see that they are not the only ones going through a sad situation.

Alfredo's sadness. Short stories about emotions for children. Short stories about emotions, like this one that we propose entitled Alfredo's sadness, are an ideal resource for the emotional education of children. We have also accompanied this children's story with reading comprehension activities and short stories about emotions.

Baron and the boy who was sad. Short story about emotions. This short story about emotions is called Baron and the boy who was sad. Talk about the joy and sadness of a child and their dog, as well as their relationship. In addition, we give you some games and activities to continue working on the emotional intelligence of the little ones.

The magic of fir. Christmas stories for children about sadness. This Christmas story for children is titled The Magic of the Fir Tree and it helps us talk with our children about sadness and the great power of love. Christmas short stories allow us to talk about emotions with children. We accompany the story with reading comprehension activities.

The Earth is sad. Short stories about climate change for children. Short stories are a very useful tool for discussing climate change with children. This children's story is titled The Earth is sad and talks about pollution. In addition, we add reading comprehension questions and we propose more stories about ecology.

So So the sad look orangutan. Short stories for kids. Do not stop reading with your children the series of short stories for children. The protagonist of this story is Tan Tan, known as the orangutan with the sad look. What this animal wants most is to know freedom outside the zoo. You will also find reading comprehension questions.

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