Parents are often very afraid that children will reach adolescence because they will become rebellious, responsive and a roller coaster of emotions. But, dear moms and dads, we have something to tell you that you might not like too much: by the time your child is already a teenager, you will have gone through several moments of maturational crisis who have nothing to envy adolescence ...
Tranquility! Do not panic! We all go through them, and better or worse, we all overcome them. We just have to take into account some of the advice that we give you below ... and remember that parenting based on love and respect usually helps us build a better relationship with our children. Next we talk about the crisis of 2 years, that of 7 years, that of puberty and adolescence... Good luck in each one of them!
How fast our babies grow! When we least expect it, they are already blowing out their second birthday candles. How adorable they are! Adorable ... until they start with the tantrums, the screams, the constant 'no' ... We are facing the crisis of 2 years of children, also known as terrible 2 years or adolescence. And it is that around 2 years (although there are children who start a little earlier and end after this age), they go through a moment of 'crisis'.
- Characteristics of the 2-year seizure in children
Why are children more stubborn than ever at 2? The little ones are no longer babies: they can walk, they start talking ... they can discover the world around them! And of course they don't want to have an adult go after them to tell them that they can't run in that place, that they can't touch that because it's dangerous, or that they can't take home everything they see in the store. 2-year-olds are beginning to develop what they like and what they are, and they want us to see it.
And it is at this moment that they begin to have tantrums, they make it clear to us through their protests what they want and what they do not want, they demand more independence through their complaints, they have a somewhat egocentric vision of the world around them ...
- Tips for Parents of 2-Year-Olds
Faced with this small great crisis of 2 years, parents must establish limits and rules in a respectful and loving way, but firmly. Since they are small, it is important that we make these rules known to them in a clear way, so that they understand them. Habits and routines are also important at this young age, as they teach children and provide them with security. Remember: empathy and patience are the best qualities a parent of a 2-year-old can have.
After the 2-year crisis was over, we thought we weren't going to have to face any of these other tricky moments until adolescence but ... WRONG! Here's the 7-year crisis to remind you that your child is growing up and building his or her own identity and personality. Don't worry or despair too much; Just as you went through the 2-year crisis, you will survive the 7-year crisis.
- What is the 7-year crisis in children?
This crisis, which usually occurs at 7 years of age, but can be earlier than 6 or delayed at 8 because each child is a different world, occurs because your child is claiming his 'me'. At this age, children have expanded their possibilities for physical development, but also for their thinking. They want more and more freedom and express their need to find a place in the world. In addition, they already have the broader possibilities on a social and language level than before.
It is common for them to rebel against the rules that we have set for them so far. And sometimes, they do it by showing their rage and anger by saying swear words or insults. It is a time when feelings are on the surface, so as soon as they are happy they are angry and do not want to hear from anyone.
- And what do parents do?
It is our task as parents to accompany children in this time of crisis to help them better understand what is happening to them. For this, it is important that we maintain the limits and the rules that we have set for them, although it is necessary to adapt them to their age. The same goes for habits and routines. They may want to break with all of them, it is part of the typical behavior in this maturational crisis, however, we must be constant but, above all, consistent with our way of educating them. The key is to empathize with them and listen to everything they need.
Well yes, that's right: there is still a great little crisis before the official arrival of adolescence. We are talking about the puberty crisis, which usually occurs between 9 and 12 years. This occurs because children are less and less children, however they are not yet adults. They are in a time of transition in which both emotionally and physically there are many changes.
- This is the crisis of puberty in children
Friends (and what they think) is more important than ever, complexes begin to arise, children change their mood again in a minute (from absolute happiness to sadness or anger), they want more and more autonomy ... We cannot forget that at this stage children are going through a time of hormonal change.
- What can parents do?
In a time of crisis like this, children feel a bit confused by everything they are feeling, so they need their parents to accompany and guide them. We must remember that, to be really useful to them, we must be respectful and loving with their needs but, above all, we must be empathetic and try to understand how they feel.
Avoiding sermons and listening to them, as well as encouraging dialogue with them while proposing limits and habits, are the keys to helping children in the crisis of puberty.
Between the ages of 14 and 16, our children can go through what is known as the adolescent crisis. Sometimes it can even happen that this and the puberty crisis overlap. The little ones in the family (who are not really so young anymore) go through a vital moment for their development, as they are laying the foundations of the adults they will become. That is why they look for their personality, but also the place where they best fit.
- The keys to the crisis of adolescence
At this moment, more than ever, our children are leaving behind the child they were and little by little they are taking on the new responsibilities and demands of adult life. They are at a crucial moment in which they build their personal identity, but also their social identity. And it is for this reason that peer relationships become so important to them. That is why belonging to a group becomes a main objective in their day to day.
They focus a lot on their body image, what they like and what they don't like, and they also develop other fears such as the fear of failure. Each time their character is more thoughtful and they demand more time alone.
- Tips for Parents with Teenagers
At this time, accompanying the children is key. It is about being there for them whenever they need it, but without being too noticeable, since they will want to maintain their almost absolute autonomy in the face of others. Again, listening to them patiently and respecting their privacy is essential.
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