Dialogue and communication

What you need to know to have a conversation with a child according to his personality


Each child has different desires and communication skills, although they are the same age, they may have normal language development. Do you know what you need to know to have a conversation with your child? Knowing in depth the communicative style of each child is key to establishing a fluid interaction that allows language to emerge and increase every day.

Much more, this profile should be taken into account, in those cases in which the onset of language was delayed, it presents primary (specific language disorder) or secondary (autism spectrum disorder, attention deficit) challenges in the development of language and hyperactivity, cognitive and sensory disorders), as specially adapted tools will be needed to increase your language.

The communicative style is related to personality, family history, general development and depends largely on the child's ability to initiate a conversation with others or to respond when they initiate an interaction with him. What are the communication styles and what strategies can I use to help them initiate and respond to interactions?

- Sociable children
They constantly initiate interactions and respond when others initiate them. It's great isn't it? However, not all children have this profile and they should not have it either. A child may not be sociable and perform well with people he trusts.

- Reluctant children
They rarely initiate interactions, but they respond. They may be out of interaction in group situations and with people close to them feel more confident.

- Passive child
Interactions are rarely initiated or responded to, show little interest in objects and people, often appear tired or unmotivated.

- Boy with his own plans
These little ones tend to play alone, they are very independent and autonomous. They tend to respond and initiate an interaction when they are very interested in something or when they need help or request something from an adult. Sometimes they reject the proposals and the interaction is not always easy.

Knowing very well the tastes and interests of these children is essential to get their attention and help them respond and then start. Starting from you can:

-Respect without pressing
Avoid asking them questions to start a journalist-like conversation, but rather resort to comments about something of interest to them (clothes, toys, favorite TV series).

- Generate a climate of trust
If they feel more comfortable interacting with relatives or close people, they should not be exposed to having to respond to strangers or people they do not see frequently. They should not be challenged if they do not respond to a question asked or do not say hello to someone. They will do this as they become more confident and have had enough 'practice' with their trusted people.

- Use symbolic play as a means to learn communication skills
Playing at home with your favorite dolls or stuffed animals can be used to simulate social situations. Through the symbolic game, the characters can be asked questions and they must answer about personal things: What is your name? What is your favorite food? Do you have a pet? What are your brothers called? If the "bear" is the one to answer, these children will feel calmer and it will be a fun opportunity to learn how to say hello, respond, ask questions or comments. Also through the game they will learn the conversational rules: taking turns in the conversation, repairing misunderstandings, expressing their interests and desires.

Challenge him so that he has to turn to you: give him two shoes of the same foot, if they are playing with blocks, just give him a few, take the batteries out of a toy he likes, put food or objects close to his sight but not within reach you want (cookies, chocolate, favorite doll). These will be communication obstacles that they will have to overcome to continue with their game or fulfill their objective. Do you want more ideas? Take note!

- Join your game in a fun way
That you drop a block like that they laugh together, trip on purpose, bump into a toy they are playing with. This will be a fun nexus between the two of you and will serve to 'get you' into their game.

- Add spice and fun to your game
Be funny, you can suddenly appear with some party glasses, put on the mouth of Mr. Dad while talking or a funny hat to attract his attention.

- Make up a 'problem' that you have to solve together
Create situations that have to be solved, that motivate them to think about solutions and present them verbally. Ex: 'I ran out of cream, what can I do?' or 'The baby cries I think he's hungry, can you help me?' or 'There is a lot of traffic on the highway, what are we going to do?'

- Generates expectation and curiosity
Always have an ace up your sleeve, a new idea that surprises them and they are interested in what is to come. Accompany with your body language, gestures, looks, inflections of your voice.

The main thing is to attend to every attempt at interaction, however subtle it may be: it can be a look, a sound or a word. Come down to his height and summon him with a smile. Respond to each communicative attempt with a comment, be attentive and curious to what he is saying. And, of course, you can also use the following games:

- Cause-effect games with people or toys
They are games or toys that surprise. For example: If I press a button or open a door, a certain effect is generated, which can be a sound, a light, a jumping doll, etc. You can also do this type of game between people: every time you squeeze your nose, you make a sound (piiiiiii), each time you squeeze your cheeks with air you make as if a balloon is deflated. These games are a lot of fun for them and create a special connection between parents and children.

- Infallible games or toys
Children usually have special toys that they like a lot, they are those that are guaranteed and they will like them. If he likes dinosaurs and you offer him a surprise box full of dinosaurs he will surely love it and motivate him to interact with you. It is important that you take advantage of this moment by taking out the toys little by little, creating expectation and suspense.

It is always possible to interact with a child, you just have to be patient, follow their interest and of course know their communicative profile.

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