We all know that, although it always helps, money does not bring happiness. So where can we find that happiness for ourselves and for our children? What do we need to be happy? The famous psychologist Martin Seligman does not talk about religion, or material things, or social status, or external beauty, he mentions the 24 things our children need to be happy. Do you want to know them?
Positive psychology was born in 1996 with the need not only to cover our weaknesses or behavior patterns that we do not like, but also as a need to find the meaning of life through well-being. Positive psychology is based on positive emotions, positive interpersonal relationships, flow with the task (involvement) and the fact of finding the meaning of life through goals and objectives.
We owe its name to the psychologist Martin Seligman, who spoke that happiness is a set of strengths that can help us achieve that great state that we all seek and that parents long for their children. We divide them by strengths below:
- Strengths that imply the acquisition of knowledge and its proper use. Here we would not find creativity, curiosity, critical thinking, a love of learning and perspective.
- Emotional strengths, in other words, those that imply courage and strength to overcome difficult situations: courage, perseverance, integrity and vitality.
- Interpersonal strengths. They are related to caring for others, with friendship and with the affection of those around us. In this category would be love, kindness and social intelligence.
- Civic strengths that lead us to have a healthy community life. Citizenship, sense of justice or leadership would be in this section.
- Strengths of moderation that protect us against excesses such as, for example, the capacity to forgive, humility, discretion or self-control.
- And finally, there are the strengths that give meaning to life. Do you know what we mean? Appreciation of beauty and excellence, gratitude, optimism, sense of humor and faith.
If you add all of them, you will get the 24 things that make children and adults happy and that allow life to be fuller. As parents we have the duty and obligation to teach them all these values and virtues and thus be able to educate them as proposed by Martin Seligman, within a context of positive discipline.
This foundation carries over into education and as a result we have that in 2011 Seligman thought that just as we want a life of well-being, also students or young people want an education based on well-being.
For this, it applies positive emotions, the improvement of relations between students and teachers, the involvement of students in learning and the determination of educational objectives to find meaning in what they do and achieve more positive achievements in the educational world.
It is proven that learning with emotion is much more effective than without emotionTherefore, the more emotional well-being there is in class, the more attention, more motivation or better decisions will be made.
Likewise, working with Seligman's 24 strengths will make our educational and personal system a better place. For example, working with gratitude as a tool to reinforce the positive that happens around us.
Any of these approaches and their application will bring us closer to a positive education or to what I determine as a holistic education, where all the planes are worked: the physical, the mental, the emotional and the spiritual planes. At the same time, we place the responsibility for learning or academic success, not only on the teacher but also on the student.
All this application of positive psychology or positive education that can be transferred to the family environment, where as parents we can work on positive emotions, foster relationships, teach them to enjoy the present moment and, of course, to have or set both personal and personal goals. relatives.
But to get to this point, parents have to flee from the excuses and justifications that keep us away from a mental and educational openness such as:
- The problems will be solved, they are still small.
- I've already done everything I could do.
- I've tried everything ... that did too!
- I want something practical and, if it can be, practical
- It is my son who has to change ...
I invite you to examine all these concepts and new points of action so that you can choose the direction that best suits you and your family environment. And is that Life gives many options, you don't have to choose the best one, but the one that makes you happy!
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