It seems that choosing a gift for our son was an easy task. It's funny how on many occasions the process turns out to be more rewarding for us as parents than for the children themselves. We like the idea of making them happy, however, sometimes in this endeavor, we exceed the number of gifts we give them and we get used to receiving many new things in a short period of time. And the truth is that an excess of toys, among other things, removes the desire to play children. And it is understandable.
That children receive an excess of gifts, has negative consequences. Among other things, it generates:
- Children stop appreciating and making sense of what it means to 'receive a gift'.
- Than stop enjoying it and explore all its possibilities because when they start to do it they are already eager to open the next one.
- They begin to see us only as a source of material gratification and the day they do not receive them they are frustrated and resentful.
- Be continually wishing for what they don't have and when it arrives they are already thinking about the following.
It goes without saying that some gifts such as consoles, cell phones and tablets, if they are given at a very early age, encourage the child to isolate himself and stop looking at what is happening around him, interact with us and develop new skills.
In addition to not falling into an excess of toys, we must take into account what kind of gifts we make to children. And it is that many times, we stop considering all the wonderful possibilities of fun that a gift can have. The best toy for a child is one that:
- that sparks your imagination.
- to help you develop your skills.
- that awakens your desire to create something for yourself.
- to invite him out, to move.
- that makes you excited, although it is not necessarily the toy that everyone has, nor the one that they have watched on television or at a friend's house.
- that allows you to share and interact with other children.
- that promotes friendship, values.
- to teach you that the essential thing about playing is not winning or losing but having fun.
As we can see, a gift can become much more: from a couple of hours of entertainment and then forgotten to a long time of enjoyment, learning and sometimes even the beginning of a hobby or passion that will accompany them forever.
Here are some essentials to consider before choosing a gift:
1. Distinguish if it is a real desire or a momentary whim
It is not the same that your child asks for a gift for a real taste and desire than for a whim. In the first case, the object of desire is related to the interests, tastes and preferences consistently shown by him and in the second it is only a sudden and momentary desire that he will surely forget in a couple of days.
2. When to give a gift
Gifts can be given for many reasons: for holidays like Christmas, Children's Day, birthdays, etc .; as a reward for effort shown in school or in a sport; to lift your spirits if you have had a bad time or simply because we are born to do so.
Giving a gift for no reason is fine, but it is NOT wise to overdo it. It is worthwhile in many cases to deliver them as a consequence of good behavior, perseverance and discipline shown in a particular area or when they manifest some value such as responsibility, generosity, solidarity, etc. In this way, we will help them understand that many of the good things that happen to us are the result of our efforts and good actions.
3. Think about what is the best gift for our son
To be successful with the toy that we are going to give our child, we must weigh it well and not buy the first thing that comes our way. Therefore, we invite you to take into account the following aspects.
- Take into account the stage of development your child is up to and try to choose gifts that develop his skills while also amusing him.
- Look for different and fun options that add value and even can strengthen family interaction. Here are some examples: a fun book according to their age, a musical instrument, a board game for the whole family that allows them to live together and learn to wait and follow the rules, a kit to make a fun craft that allows them to awaken their imagination and their creativity, books to learn to draw, a kite that they can fly together, sneakers to start a sport, etc.
- Not all gifts have to be material, you can teach him to enjoy other things and give him a voucher that he can exchange for good times and especially for time with you, such as: his favorite dinner, a walk to a fun place, see a movie and eating popcorn in bed together, a pillow fight, a living room camp, a tickling or fighting session in bed, etc.
4. Teach him to appreciate
Do not forget to first give yourself time to enjoy the gift with your child, to sit down to open it and discover it with him, as well as to teach him the value of appreciating things and realizing how lucky he is to have them.
Teach him to take care of them and keep them in good condition and also, when the time comes, to be generous and share them by giving away those toys that he no longer uses but that are in good condition and another child can enjoy.
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